This week we learnt that our friend and Hamada’s fellow warrior, travelling the same MM road has passed away. He was a lovely gentleman whom we had come to know during the trips to Lincoln County and more so during the recent rounds of Velcade Chemotherapy (both having the same regimes). This gentleman was the subject of my poem “The Man With The White Knitted Hat†which is shown below in a recent post. It has saddened as both very much and we send our heartfelt condolences to his dear wife. God Speed Keith, your journey with MM was all too short.
Tag: myeloma
As friendships and knowledge builds with other Myeloma sufferers, it is easy to understand that this Cancer unfolds so differently for each patient. With a huge variation in symptoms, it appears such a diverse disease that seems to stumble on the weakest organs making it’s own unique way of attack. For some MM sufferers the damage unfolds with lower back trouble or in long limb fractures or breaks. I know that a neck fracture was the first sign for a friend that something terrible was wrong and then much later a diagnosis of MM was made. How differently this disease shows it’s signs in each patient.
For Hamada it was kidney failure that came out of the blue with no signal at all that anything was amiss, just an unusual feeling of tiredness. For sure it is so important to get an early diagnosis before the myeloma does serious damage to vital organs but how many of us get regular blood CBC’s? very few I would imagine in the UK. Unless like Hamada who did contract work at times and needed good health checks for insurance travelling abroad etc. In many cases this disease could and does go unnoticed for many months, so the damage is already done. Although Hamada succumbed to MM he was in one way, very lucky to have had an early diagnosis as we believe that having had a blood test only six months before the very one that picked-up his kidney failure, certainly played a great part in getting him to this now, three years six months point. Early diagnosis I believe, is paramount and vital, we all know that the damage done by Myeloma cannot be reversed but it can be brought under control. Still with good care it is important to stress, many patients are now living long and productive lives.
Hamada was immediately prescribed a vast array of maintenance drugs from day one. Including some to protect as much as possible, his bones and the lining of his stomach and gut etc. It is so important to keep regularly to the times of taking these drugs and injections, not missing out or delaying in the filling of prescription etc. Good continuous management of drug awareness, taking as much care with infections, avoiding places and people with colds or worse still flu.
Diet is vital to the success of a longer life. Good tasty meals that contain a good variety, covering all vitamins and minerals and for some little and often is the rule. In the case of Kidney damage, eliminating salt and potassium and increasing liquid intake to a reasonable two litre per day amount, has helped Hamada greatly. I know that there are many MM sufferers who still enjoy a glass of wine, and why not? But if the kidneys are affected not really a wise move, the rule always being, water is best. Hamada now has 15% kidney function when at diagnosis he had only 6%. A great improvement that has kept him from dialysis.
The very difficult part is that Hamada’s Para Protein-an important marker and indicator in the activity of the cancer- is rising once again, and the decision will have to be made shortly, with regards to the next chemotherapy regime for him, possibly Velcade. Whether he is really strong enough to try again with more chemotherapy and if this is the right drug of choice at a time, when he is enjoying a quiet but steady pace of life, is a most difficult decision to arrive at. The damage from this drug would certainly be detrimental to parts of his poor quality blood, which although not getting much worse, is not improving either but could bring down the para-protein and such, help to eliminate further damage to his bones and organs.
We think the New Year 2010 will bring the answers to these decisions, Hamada has achieved so much and done so well we feel, for someone given a prognosis of only six months at outset . He continues bravely and without complaint about anything, a great lesson to us all I feel. So steadfastly we make the most of each and every day with love and the best possible care we can manage. We sincerely wish all our friends in the world of Myeloma (sadly there are many) peace and hope, a decent quality of life and the very best care possible from your providers but most of all, love and kindness from your carers .
Wedding anniversaries are always special. Perhaps even more these days with marriages ending in divorce with what seems like a lack of commitment on behalf of many couples. We give up so easily when things don’t ‘go to plan’ falling out of love at a whim! So celebrating another year together is always something to cherish, certainly something to be proud of. The stress of modern day living can throw-up distractions that can lure us away from what is truly important. For many of us, we say our wedding vows in the throe’s of love and passion to the person standing with us on that special day. Do we really think enough about or believe that these vows, you remember? ” In Sickness and Health, For Richer for Poorer, Till Death do us Part” could be and often are, severely put to the test in later years. Staying the distance is what is important when things go wrong. I would never think a marriage without kindness ever worth saving, but supporting and caring for your loved one and loving, even when due to illness things fall apart and are no longer the same, or – ever likely to be the same again – IS.
Now that makes you proud, that is something worth celebrating! I am so lucky, to have been able to celebrate another special year with my Husband Hamada, although life is not quite the same …it is still very special. We have managed another year of married life together, when we thought on several occasions that because of his Multiple Myeloma www.myeloma.org.uk he would not be here and there would be No more celebrations of this, “A Very Special Day”
Lora Conrad 17 July 2009. Everyone should have the privilege of reading Susie’s poetry. They bring real life to the forefront. It’s not always what we wish for, but, facing life’s valleys and sharing them openly makes it easier for others to accept also.
Information on Multiple Myeloma can be found on www.myeloma.org.uk    Helpline 0800 980 3332.
More Poems Of Love on http://www.susiehemingway.blogspot.com -Views 9238 @ 25.7.09
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Although you’re down and feeling blue
a little bit dreamy not wanting to
talk or read, I understand,
just love smiles will do…
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I’ll wrap you soft as feather down,
and feed you from a silver spoon,
bewitch you with procured delights
just return those love smiles tonight.
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I’ll fill the room with bergamot
and camouflage your pain,
find the crystal glasses
and then I’ll pour champagne,
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unstring my heart like oyster’s pearls
enthral at just one glance,
if you can muster just for me
a ‘love smile’ when I glance.
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I’ll soften all those noisy vowels
when cooing gentle mantra,
and even toast some butter crumpets
or pick a Shakespeare rose…
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and as the peace from pain
like absolution comes,
as when the scent pungent and loved
reaches to your nose,
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smile for me beloved one
those ‘love smiles’ that I know…
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